Day #7 of Learn with Me
What’s your relationship status?
Are you “in a relationship” with you or someone outside of you?
I’ve been on a binge watching fest of Sex and the City. I love everything about those episodes. Partly because I love NYC and partly because I love the camaraderie of all the relationships.
I had a huge reminder of what it means to be to be “in a relationship” with me.
Truth be told, I’m not very good at it. Influenced by FOG (fear, obligation and guilt) has been the pattern for much of my life. I consider what I want as a last option. I do for others way more than I do for me. Sound familiar?
For most women, this is the natural tendency. We are nurturers and connectors by nature. It’s how the socio-emotional aspect of our self works.
My big reminder the other day of binge watching came when Samantha (a character who really has not always wanted to be in a relationship with another and found herself in one) says to her boyfriend whom she is leaving, “I’ve been in a relationship with myself for 50 years and it’s the one I need to work on.”
The boyfriend responds, “You don’t love me?”
Samantha responds, “I’m just going to say it. I love me more.”
Day #7 of Learn with Me is RELATIONSHIP.
Writing Coming Home: A Love Story unleashed my deepest desire to be “in a relationship” with myself. I had not thought about that before, felt that before or even saw the necessity in that before.
The essence of our life is held by only ONE relationship that matters – Know Thyself.
Like a river that continuously flows, if everything you are and do flows from that space within your heart, mind, body and soul, your life will exponentially expand.
The tapestry of your woven life is made colorful by every thread coming from your “home” – your desires, that which brings you joy, what lights you up, what allows you to feel good and nothing less.
Each story I was willing to own, each story I was willing to write, and each story I was willing to set free ultimately created my freedom and helped me discover me again. At times it was a roller coaster shit show of emotions, truths and lies. Discerning what was important from each of my stories held a power to bring me back home.
Transformation is the healing of our most powerful and sacred relationship…the one we have with our self.
F. Scott Fitzgerald sums it up well –
I fell in love with her courage, her sincerity, and her flaming self-respect. And it’s these things I’d believe in, even if the whole world indulged in wild suspicions that she wasn’t all she should be. I love her and that is the beginning of everything.
There’s a sacred clarity that unfolds when we open up to and work diligently on who we are. The relationship with our heart, mind, body and soul. It is this relationship that needs and must come first and foremost.
As a conscious lifestyler, I am well aware that relationships and the energetic exchange of relationships is ALWAYS a work in progress. I also believe this is our sacred purpose.
Are you in a relationship? With yourself that is…
If you are, LOVE that, honor that, and keep aligning to that.
If you are NOT, divorce all other relationships and let’s make YOU a priority, let’s discover YOU, and let’s have YOU awaken from your slumber.
YOU are so worthy of a conscious lifestyle filled with JOY, LOVE and FUN!
LOVE YOU MORE!